Yesterday, Atticus took all three children out for the day. The whole day. The entire day. As in, "I didn't fix lunch or dinner for anyone and I ate Chinese takeout from the box" kind of day. This is also known as Mommy's Christmas Present.
Now, before I'm accused of being one of those selfish, 21st-Century-Gotta-Take-Care-of-Me-First moms, I want to make it clear that I love being with my children. I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't, couldn't, shouldn't homeschool them. I adore them and I adore being with them. I love them to pieces, distraction, etc. (sorry -- stolen quote from Franny and Zooey, for those of you on the plagiarism watch, which I'm alert to, since Atticus just finished grading term papers ....)
But, I do enjoy -- occasionally need -- revel in, a little bit of time to myself. This was more than just "a little bit" of time to myself, though. This was a positively decadent amount of time to myself during which I:
~ enjoyed a shower without anyone flinging the shower door open to say, "Mom! I played the game she wanted, but now she won't play the game I want!" (This after having passed by their father who's available to settle a squabble but who will always be overlooked because Mom is the first squabble-settler they seek, regardless of whether or not she is standing in the shower with soap all over her face.)
~ was certain I heard footsteps upstairs while I was in the shower
~ spent a short amount of time paralyzed by my choices
~ drank coffee. Lots of coffee. Had some more coffee. And every cup was hot.
~ worked on an article I've been wanting to revise for months
~ talked to a faraway friend on the phone without anyone saying, "What? What? Why did you laugh?"
~ read. Pondered. Read. Prayed.
~ ate Christmas candy and didn't share a bite of it with anyone (which if okay, since they got ridiculous amounts of candy in their stockings)
~ decluttered a part of the family room that had been overtaken by kid stuff that was screaming to be bagged up and thrown out
~played on the computer, surfing further than I usually do, because nothing else was in need of my attention (except the decluttering, the article to revise ....)
~ drank Chocolate Chai (sent by dear, above-mentioned faraway friend) which stayed hot, too
~ worried when my family wasn't home at the expected time, and thought about how my life would come to a screeching, horrifying halt if they'd been in a fatal accident ... my whole life, in one van ....
~ rejoiced when they walked in the door, hugged them incredibly tightly, and told them that I loved them enormously, missed them, and I hoped they'd had as dandy a day as I did. And you know what? They had.
3 comments:
Karen,
That is pretty much exactly how I'd spend my Mom-Alone day, and pretty much exactly how I'd feel about them being gone, and returning!
Willa,
Here's wishing one for you. :-)
As much as we love some alone time, isn't the best part the first minute they walk in the door? All the excitement and questions about the day, the house being full of life again. I think we need an occasional day "off" to fully appreciate how much we love the chaos and noise.
I'm glad you enjoyed your day. It sounded heavenly.
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