tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post8881878302799740382..comments2024-03-25T02:43:49.115-05:00Comments on Karen Edmisten: The Triduum ... KidterruptedKaren Edmisten http://www.blogger.com/profile/04446214835142625161noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-74191026081819511582008-03-22T20:58:00.000-05:002008-03-22T20:58:00.000-05:00I have to admit I felt a certain pressure to atten...I have to admit I felt a certain pressure to attend at least one service this year, but my husband has been on call, which mean he works late and can't come with us. My kids are 15 months, 3, 4, and 7. I went to Good Friday anyway and asked a good friend's teenage daughter to sit with me should I need the help. I needed the help, and even with it the whole experience was overwhelming, for me and for her, and after an hour and a half, I had a very upset four year old and baby, not to mention an exhausted three year old. I left there thinking "What was the point of all that?" I was somewhat jealous of everyone else leaving afterwards, chatting, and seeming very happy. I felt like I had done the whole thing wrong. But, then I realized that I was pushing too hard, and I should have known that this was how it was going to turn out. Thanks for posting this. I needed to read it!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11815691376686603623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-43913780961341407852008-03-22T14:07:00.000-05:002008-03-22T14:07:00.000-05:00And a huge *thank you* to all of you for taking th...And a huge *thank you* to all of you for taking the time to comment! I was afraid the post had ended up wandering and rambling, but am glad to know there was at least something helpful in this "expert" analysis. ;-) <BR/><BR/>Yes, Eileen, I think there's only so much we can do to prepare very little ones. They certainly do "get it" to a degree (sometimes to a beautiful, surprising, tearjerking degree) but I've always found that I also need to be prepared, when I take them to a long Mass, to bring along some distractions that will help them. Mostly faith-related stuff, but not always. We do what we can do. :-) <BR/><BR/>Amber, that about.com page is VERY confusing in the way it's set up. He should have separated out the days of obligation into a separate list, to be clearer. I can see why you thought the Triduum was obligatory! I remember being told by someone, the year I was received into the Church at the Vigil, that I must also go to Mass the next morning. Not that I was against going to Mass as often as I could, but I found that there's a lot of misinformation out there! :-) <BR/><BR/>I would love to write a "So Now You're Catholic" book, to address just those kinds of things!Karen Edmisten https://www.blogger.com/profile/04446214835142625161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-57677083450650029812008-03-22T11:05:00.000-05:002008-03-22T11:05:00.000-05:00Just loved this post!Just loved this post!Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06806624219692079964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-30251481865260780572008-03-22T09:59:00.000-05:002008-03-22T09:59:00.000-05:00Boy we need to hear and be reminded of these thing...Boy we need to hear and be reminded of these things sometimes. I was holding my breath in stations yesterday with my 2 year old. Thank you for refreshing my spirit that they are only little now and soon it will change.<BR/>:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-48567721779982539922008-03-21T22:18:00.000-05:002008-03-21T22:18:00.000-05:00One of my sisters, who knows I get all kinds of gr...One of my sisters, who knows I get all kinds of great ideas from blogs like yours, asked me if I knew of anyone who had come up with a way of preparing younger kids for Good Friday service, so that it wouldn't seem so long and difficult to them. (I didn't; but wouldn't *that* be a great resource!!)<BR/><BR/>I told her I generally deal with such difficulties by staying home. (With two rambunctious little boys in the mix, Sundays are hard enough!) :) <BR/><BR/>I love the things we are doing as a family to experience and celebrate the liturgical life of the church in our home. And I look forward to the day when we can share fully in that life by experiencing Holy Week liturgies together, too.<BR/><BR/>But I have no problem deciding that this is not the year.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for(another!)beautiful reflection!<BR/><BR/>Warmly,<BR/>EileenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-77539749953483384352008-03-21T20:29:00.000-05:002008-03-21T20:29:00.000-05:00I just survived a rather trying Good Friday servic...I just survived a rather trying Good Friday service with my 2 year old (complete with comments from the people behind me *sigh* and he wasn't doing anything more than being wiggly and chattering softly!) but I'm still glad we went. My daughter (6) definitely got something out of it as the novelty of going to church without Mass made an impression. <BR/><BR/>I did go to the Holy Thursday service by myself last night though, which was very moving. I'm not going to try and take them to the vigil service... largely for selfish reasons. As someone who just came into the church last year, I'm looking forward to seeing the vigil from the other side, so to speak.<BR/><BR/>I was confused about the whole days of obligation thing... I looked it up on the internet and found this: http://catholicism.about.com/od/holydaysandholidays/a/2008_Lit_Cal.htm which says that the whole Triduum is required, but then after reading your post I found the USCCB Canon law about it (http://www.usccb.org/norms/1246.htm) and found out otherwise. Like I said, so confusing! Being a convert makes me feel like I'm always a couple of steps behind. I wish there was a newsletter or something with reminders about all this for people who were recently received into the Church!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12689104216675201913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-89622726353261206312008-03-21T19:25:00.000-05:002008-03-21T19:25:00.000-05:00Thanks for this post! It is hard to keep all of th...Thanks for this post! It is hard to keep all of that in perspective when you are a mom to little ones who truly don't get it yet, so I appreciate your wisdom. AND...I agree about giving us Lent so that we could appreciate the "shining" moments. At Holy Thursday when we sang the Gloria, I didn't realize how much I had missed singing it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17019672.post-59221197760523175132008-03-21T15:27:00.000-05:002008-03-21T15:27:00.000-05:00Oh, Karen, I'm so glad you decided to continue you...Oh, Karen, I'm so glad you decided to continue your post! I especially loved the little tidbits about Ramona (what a gal!) and I sincerely concur with your "expert" analysis of working with children through Holy Week.love2learnmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10548471887979257624noreply@blogger.com